Tear at your heart Definition 1 of 3Pro Tip 1/3Emotional Impact Use it to express how something affects you or others emotionally, often by sadness. The documentary about climate change tears at your heart. Pro Tip 2/3Empathy Trigger Ideal for describing events or stories that you expect to make others feel empathy. The nurse's tale of the aging veteran tears at your heart. Pro Tip 3/3Not Literal The phrase is figurative and does not describe physical pain but deep emotional response. The sight of the abandoned pets tore at my heart.