What are you, was he, etc. getting at?
phrase
To try to understand or find the real intention or meaning behind someone's actions or words.
You've been asking a lot of questions about the project, what are you getting at?

Often appears as...
- what are you getting at?
- what is he getting at?
Usage tips
Colloquial
phrase
To suggest indirectly or hint.
His speech had a critical tone, but I couldn't understand what he was getting at.

Often appears as...
- what is he getting at?
- what are they getting at?
Usage tips
Idiomatic
phrase
To try to understand or find the real intention or meaning behind someone's actions or words.
You've been asking a lot of questions about the project, what are you getting at?

Often appears as...
- what are you getting at?
- what is he getting at?
Usage tips
Colloquial
phrase
To suggest indirectly or hint.
His speech had a critical tone, but I couldn't understand what he was getting at.

Often appears as...
- what is he getting at?
- what are they getting at?
Usage tips
Idiomatic
Definition 1 of 2

Conversation Probe
Used to gently dig deeper into someone's thoughts when the meaning isn't clear.

You seem upset about the decision, what are you getting at?
Not Aggressive
It's a non-confrontational way to ask for clarity without sounding too aggressive.

Your comments are intriguing; what are you getting at?
Clarify Assumptions
Use it to clarify if you think someone is implying something without stating it directly.

Your hints seem to point somewhere; what are you getting at?
Conversation Probe
Used to gently dig deeper into someone's thoughts when the meaning isn't clear.

You seem upset about the decision, what are you getting at?
Not Aggressive
It's a non-confrontational way to ask for clarity without sounding too aggressive.

Your comments are intriguing; what are you getting at?
Clarify Assumptions
Use it to clarify if you think someone is implying something without stating it directly.

Your hints seem to point somewhere; what are you getting at?
Conversation Probe
Used to gently dig deeper into someone's thoughts when the meaning isn't clear.

You seem upset about the decision, what are you getting at?
Not Aggressive
It's a non-confrontational way to ask for clarity without sounding too aggressive.

Your comments are intriguing; what are you getting at?
Clarify Assumptions
Use it to clarify if you think someone is implying something without stating it directly.

Your hints seem to point somewhere; what are you getting at?
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